There are so many stages in a woman’s life. I have to say that none of those are very easy. Many may perceive each of their own “stages” quite differently. Some may be painful and difficult and others may be quite momentous, delightful, educational and empowering.
Women go through many facets in their lives. We go through many changes. In my own opinion I wanted to break down a woman’s life and actually contemplate on the many stages of our lives. Let’s see how many you can relate to. These are the stages as I perceive them:
Stages Of A Woman:
- First bra
- First period
- First Boyfriend
- First kiss
- First job
- Getting married
- First Pregnancy
Writing these points down, I realize how many events, we as women, go through in our lifetime. A lot of firsts . . . a lot of memories, good and bad. If it wasn’t for a mother’s love to get through most of these events, we would probably be lost. Sometimes it’s all on a father’s love and responsibility to play both roles. And kudos to those fathers who get their daughters through some of these momentous occasions in a girl’s life.
I know, personally, how much i doted on my mother to help me through some of these stages. And now I am over-the-moon with joy that I can be there for my daughter. We have made it up to the “first date/boyfriend”. None yet whew . . . thank God! LOL !! I am hoping Prom and Graduation comes before. 🙂 But I am ready ladies.
Most of us have made it through most of these stages without incident . . . I hope. So far so good. I cannot complain about any of these really. The hardest one to handle, for me, is the last one. Menopause. No one really talks about it. I was really reluctant to talk about it , to be honest. Once you get to this stage, it’s like your age is out there for everyone to know. Yes, it’s the age thing again. Most women are weary of their age becoming public knowledge. That’s how I felt . . . like if you divulge you are entering the menopause era, you are displaying your age to the world.
I grew up thinking that menopause is what happens to old people . . . once I knew what menopause was. I thought once you reach this stage … that was it. Your life is over. I thought when you hit menopause, you retire, you sit back in your rocking chair and enjoy the grandkids.
Well, that is so far from reality. Life did not end for me. In fact it’s just the beginning. Or at least it should be. I am certainly not slowing down. Although I wish I had started earlier, I took up photography seriously just in my early 50’s. Photography was my passion for so many years but never did I think I would take it up professionally. I refused to think I was too old to have started this now in my 50’s. That’s why I also started this blog. I wanted the chance to empower women just like me to continue their reign of their long-time passion and dreams.
Menopause and Symptoms
Menopause is a natural biological process of life. It’s the stage in our lives that mark the end of our menstrual cycle. It usually happens in a woman’s 40’s and 50’s. The average age is around 51 years old.
When I went to see my doctor when I suspected I had reached menopause, she informed me that my full diagnosis is after 12 months of no menstrual period. Therefore, the time leading up to full menopause is called perimenopause.
Here are some symptoms to look out for if you think you are entering menopause:
- hot flashes – (hate this one the most)
- night sweats – (or is it this one 🙂 )
- weight gain
- irregular periods
- vaginal dryness
- mood changes
Like I said before menopause usually begins for women in their early 50’s but from what I have learned it can happen to women in their 40’s. And some of these symptoms can last a long time before menopause sets in.
For me the night sweats are still holding strong. The weight gain was just astronomical for me. I just kept gaining and gaining and did not even care. And that was because of the mood changes. My mood swings would just turn on a dime. It was awful. I would be happy and content one moment and then in a flash I would turn emotional and angry for almost no reason. My poor husband took the brunt of all my weird mood swings. The anxiety also began to wear me down. I would start to panic about a lot of things; paying bills which seemed like a mountain of paper, fear of taking on too much, parenting 2 teenage kids and the list goes on.
I have created some lists that you might find helpful in writing down your feelings, your mood, your inspirations, your thoughts.
Since the new year, I told myself, “It’s a new year and let’s start fresh – from the beginning”. So far so good. I started taking vitamins, started working out more and even joined a gym. The anxiety has subsided somewhat. Some women have a much tougher time through their menopause where medication needs to be administered. When it becomes unbearable, you need to see your doctor. There is medication out there. There is also a few Facebook support groups that might be of help. At the very least, it could help to know that there are other women out there with the same symptoms as you. I know it helps me. Find one Facebook support group here.