What is family? To me “family” is an important word. It has an important meaning. To me, family, means someone you can go to, to find comfort and love. Family can be a combination of 2 or more members. As long as it’s a place where you can find love and happiness and support.
In times of great accomplishments, you want to share your happiness; in times of fear, you want to feel you are protected; in times of illness, no matter how small or severe, you want to feel comfort and healing and most of all, in times of grief and great loss, you want to feel your family’s heartbeat around you like an embrace that keeps you secure from sorrow.
Loss of A Strong Woman
A year ago, today, we lost an integral part of our family. My mother. She passed away suddenly 1 year ago today and we all stood in shock as the news ripped through our hearts. At times it was unbearable to contemplate that I would never be able to go to her for advice, to talk to her, to share news of my kids’ educational accomplishments or extracurricular accomplishments. And it was hard to attend each of their milestone graduations last year without her presence. She was so looking forward to it.
Family is what kept me together. I wanted to stay strong for my kids. But little did they know, they kept me from falling apart. As a family unit, we stick together in good times and in extraordinarily tough times like this. Family is there for one another.
Although it was difficult to bear, I know my mom is at peace because she had finally joined the love of her life, my dad, up in heaven. I know she is finally at peace, after battling so much loss and illnesses and struggles. And I know they are both looking down on us all and I can only hope that they are proud of all our accomplishments.
Whatever my accomplishments are, it is highly due to my mother. She steered me on the path of creativity. We went together to my first paper tolle class when I was a teenager. And that put me on the path to scrapbooking, creating topiary trees and centerpieces, creating jewelry collections, baking, knitting, crocheting.
She bought me my first pocket camera when I was a mere 12 years old. And that became a lifelong passion of mine that lead me to start my photography business.
So, I dedicate my accomplishments to the strongest woman I have ever known and loved – my beautiful mother. You will be in my heart forever and I hope I can be half the mother you were to me, to my own daughter.
May is for . . .
And as we near Mother’s Day, let us all truly embrace our mothers and remember all that they have done for us throughout our lives. I never take one day with my loved ones for granted. In these days and times, you never know how much time we have to be together. Do not put off what you want to do for another time because life gets too busy.
Truly enjoy your family.
One of my favourite quotes, from a very special movie when my kids were young . . .
OHANA means Family.
I’m so proud to have called this great woman my mother.